What to do when your reality does not match your plan.

Your plan and reality

Last week I talked about the Brain of the Heart, This week I will talk how to get back on track when your reality picture does not match your plan picture.  This difference between where you are and your vision is called cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is the feeling of discomfort (stress or anxiety) that results from holding two conflicting beliefs. When there is a discrepancy between beliefs and behaviors, something must change in order to eliminate or reduce the dissonance.

One way to reduce dissonance, is to control your emotions and create emotional resilience. By staying emotionally resilient, you are sending messages from your Heart to your Brain and  stopping an emotional response that is some linked to an old pattern or behavior.

To help with the discomfort from cognitive dissonance try this helpful step to disengage the feeling of stress or anxiety when your reality picture does not match your plan picture.

Step 1: Heart Focus. Focus your attention on the area around your heart, the area in the center of your chest. If you prefer, the first couple of times you try it, place your hand over the center of your chest to help keep your attention in the heart area.
Step 2: Heart Breathing. Breathe deeply, but normally, and imagine that your breath is coming in and going out through your heart area. Continue breathing with ease until you find a natural inner rhythm that feels good to you.
Step 3: Heart Feeling. As you maintain your heart focus and heart breathing, activate a positive feeling. Recall a positive feeling, a time when you felt good inside, and try to re-experience the feeling. One of the easiest ways to generate a positive, heart-based feeling is to remember a special place you’ve been to or the love you feel for a close friend or family member or treasured pet. This is the most important step. (This technique is from HeartMath)

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